do not know if it was something my own, but when we started thinking of having some problems with fertility in me not fire a single thought: "No one needs to know."
Now, in hindsight, and after all the work I did on myself, and that we have done for our married life, I think its a stupid thing. At that time, however, for me a disaster was happening, I do not know how many times capacitive and I said, "but why me when there are people who throw them in dumpsters, and I, instead, I'll give him all the best in the world?". Every day surfing on the net looking for confirmation, medical reasons, solutions, names of doctors .. In short I do not resign. My husband was more rational than me, told me to stay calm (ehm.. Uh .. never say to your husbands, wives to stay calm if you do not have solutions applicable to a given problem ..! The fury will fall on you!:-D), which are things that can happen to not get pregnant "immediately." Now, he said, but had already passed 8 months since we started trying. ok, "Enough!" I told him one day and made an appointment with the origin. I turned it inside out, with blood tests, visits to other specialists, after years of research and trials I had confirmation that it could not have kids.
You know how it feels when someone steals at home? or you steal the car paid for by years of sacrifice? here I think it's pretty close to me had been stolen the thing that I valued the most, one of the reasons why we decided to get married, one child. This sense of deprivation made me close to myself, nobody knew, nobody knew, nobody would have said the right thing, we had been just me and him, and we remain just me and him ...
Do you realize?! of that I turned my head.
If there's one thing that gave me the awareness of our journey with adoption, thanks to the meetings with the doctors made the GIL, which have enabled me to deepen my husband and also a couple things, you and I my husband already have a family and all the suffering and "anger", not wanting to tell anyone for fear of .. I do not know what, I've often wondered but I have no answer, depended on my own feeling, from not wanting to explain to others not to have to say out loud "They are sterile, because they say it would mean the end of any attempt .
Then one day, that he was born My nephew, the people who asked me before when we thought we had a baby, have begun to say "now it's up to you!", "the next will be you!", and I did not think it would be me .. and is since then that I started to say "we're taking!" and I began to breathe!
Now, in hindsight, and after all the work I did on myself, and that we have done for our married life, I think its a stupid thing. At that time, however, for me a disaster was happening, I do not know how many times capacitive and I said, "but why me when there are people who throw them in dumpsters, and I, instead, I'll give him all the best in the world?". Every day surfing on the net looking for confirmation, medical reasons, solutions, names of doctors .. In short I do not resign. My husband was more rational than me, told me to stay calm (ehm.. Uh .. never say to your husbands, wives to stay calm if you do not have solutions applicable to a given problem ..! The fury will fall on you!:-D), which are things that can happen to not get pregnant "immediately." Now, he said, but had already passed 8 months since we started trying. ok, "Enough!" I told him one day and made an appointment with the origin. I turned it inside out, with blood tests, visits to other specialists, after years of research and trials I had confirmation that it could not have kids.
You know how it feels when someone steals at home? or you steal the car paid for by years of sacrifice? here I think it's pretty close to me had been stolen the thing that I valued the most, one of the reasons why we decided to get married, one child. This sense of deprivation made me close to myself, nobody knew, nobody knew, nobody would have said the right thing, we had been just me and him, and we remain just me and him ...
Do you realize?! of that I turned my head.
If there's one thing that gave me the awareness of our journey with adoption, thanks to the meetings with the doctors made the GIL, which have enabled me to deepen my husband and also a couple things, you and I my husband already have a family and all the suffering and "anger", not wanting to tell anyone for fear of .. I do not know what, I've often wondered but I have no answer, depended on my own feeling, from not wanting to explain to others not to have to say out loud "They are sterile, because they say it would mean the end of any attempt .
Then one day, that he was born My nephew, the people who asked me before when we thought we had a baby, have begun to say "now it's up to you!", "the next will be you!", and I did not think it would be me .. and is since then that I started to say "we're taking!" and I began to breathe!
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